Part 2 of a three part series which began on April 14, 2016Middle Aged Couple Relaxing In Countryside

Because of the way she’s been made by God, there is a second thing that a woman needs and wants from a man

Second, Leadership with Love.

A woman wants to be led. And while some might say that she only wants to be led because she’s been taught to follow. In reality, a woman responds when a man leads in a loving Christ-like manner.

We see this in the heart of the young woman from the very beginning. In chapter one, verse four she says,

            1:4     Draw me after you and let us run together.

These are not the words of someone being pressured to follow. She’s ready to go anywhere with the one she admires. The key to his leadership is his love. And she wants others to know it. In chapter 2, verse 4 she says:

            2:4     His banner over me is love

This banner meant security and stability, inspiring and cultivating her own growth in humility and strength.

Notice the loving words spoken by the man as he invites her to follow him.

2:10   Arise, my darling, my beautiful one, and come along.

And again, 

2:13  Arise, my darling, my beautiful one, and come along.

She was his companion, to have and to hold. And because of how God formed her, she needed his strong character and loving leadership.

Dr James P Porowski     Licensed Psychologist     Professor – Southeastern Baptist Theological Seminary    Raleigh NC     April 19, 2016